Friday, September 18, 2009

A Small Success

It's funny how proud of yourself you can be when you succeed in entertaining your triplets for a whole day, including a grand adventure to a new location, especially when you're not used to doing so. So here I sit, exhausted as heck, but pleased. I was able to start the day with my kids, dress them, feed them breakfast, pack them up in the car, take them to a fantastic museum, keep them from running off or being carried off by someone else while they ran loose in a crowded place, feed them lunch, bring them home and kick their butts into nap, which was only the first half of the day. Lord I needed that nap.

But I made it. And it's pathetic that I'm so proud because there are triplet moms out there who do every single stinking day by themselves. I still had grandma for most of the day. Some moms have no help so they can't go to crowded places where triplets can run away from them. Some moms are run into the ground beyond my imagining and here I am with one day under my belt.

Damn the economy and all that. Losing half my nanny hours and having to finally take responsibility for caring for my children for several whole days each week sucks eggs. Wah, I cry like a baby about it all but let's get real. Isn't it about time for me to figure out how to do it myself? These are my kids after all. But it doesn't help to go to a triplet mom dinner last night and sit next to a woman who has 5, yes FIVE caretakers for her children. An au pair, a night nanny and three other nannies. She says that during the day there is never less than 2 people other than herself caring for her kids. She was unapologetic because it means her interactions with her kids were all positive and she is rested and can enjoy them more.

Oh lord people. I had to sit next to this woman for more than TWO HOURS. The day after I had to face the reality that I can't afford my morning nannies. And she's all complaining that they don't always place the stroller in the right spot and how she only feels like the upstairs has to be completely OCD her way because it's her sanctuary, the kids area can get messy as long as it gets all cleaned up at the end of the day. It's not too much to ask since she has FIVE people. What else do they have to do?

I have never left a dinner more depressed in my lifetime. So today is a triumph. What that lady missed today? Was the joy of understanding my children better. The joy of figuring out that even when you want to drop dead by 4 pm, you can push through and make it to the end of the day with your kids. My sense of accomplishment is deserved. And I will have many more successful days in the future. Sure, I'd love to win the lottery, sell my house at or above what we paid for it and find the best, cheapest, most perfect house to buy and move into, but until then? I will keep chugging and finding new reserves of energy from somewhere. Legally.


  1. I am ALWAYS exhausted when I get home from going somewhere with the kids, whether I was by myself or not:) It is a feat either way! And holy cow FIVE people to care for her kids? Wow. I remember one day I was at Disney with another triplet mom friend of mine, just the 2 of us and our 6 kids.. walking behind a woman, her husband, and their nanny who was pushing their one child in a stroller. The mom looked at us and turned to the nanny and said "See? You have nothing to complain about!" *sigh*:)

  2. Woo-hoo, Mira! I have yet to venture out to any kind of museum with my kiddos, with or without help. So good for you!

  3. Congrats! I am always proud of myself after venturing out with the trio. I am trying to do at least one day a week by myself and just going for a walk is a huge feat. Anyway, hang in there. You're doing a great job!

  4. 5 caretakers for 3 children.........that makes no sense.......what does she do all day? I can see one on one type thing but 5?? the kids are definitely out numbered here.

    YOU DID GREAT with your adventure today! you go girl! you know, it will always be a challenge, but it will get easier as they grow; I said that before but it really is the truth. you need something like they used to do at Chuck E Cheese (and still might) but a place where kids were checked in with mom, given a number and could only leave when mom/kids matched numbers together. That way you could relax a bit in case one got out of your sight for a moment. I know it always worried me if I couldn't find one of mine right then.

    You're doing great! small steps.......

    I just thought as I clicked on your journal, you have to potty train 3 kids at a time........sort of.....I know you can space it out.....but........

    try to have a good weekend


  5. You're rockin' it, Mira! I can't imagine what it was like to take three little ones to a museum by's taken me forever to get comfortable taking my (only 2) daughters places by myself.

    (I also can't wrap my head around how much $$$ it must take to employee 5 caretakers for 3 children.)